A Doable Schedule

ScheduleMy new therapist suggested I do my best to follow a consistent schedule and thought that was the very next step for me, besides seeing a psychiatrist. I shared that I am less capable of getting things accomplished on bad days, and that my bad days usually revolve around getting less sleep (hence the bad day has a scheduled nap for me!). Therefore, I made three schedules to go by that have doable goals for each level of emotion. As I have time, I will put coping skills into the various groupings, but I thought these overall categories were good enough to start with. I also started to make a schedule that has a column for each person in the family (namely, what I need to be doing for each of them during each time frame), and that’s what I’ll probably go by, but here is my first attempt at ordered living ๐Ÿ™‚

We’ll see how it goes. I much prefer making pretty charts and schedules than actually going by them. This chart is far from being perfected! Excel is so fun ๐Ÿ™‚


11 thoughts on “A Doable Schedule

    • Ha! Glad someone agrees with me! Since it’s pretty much what I do anyway, I figure it won’t be so hard to follow. Except I’m giving myself permission to relax my schedule on bad days instead of getting upset with myself ๐Ÿ˜‰

  1. Wow, I see the value in form and a schedule but may I suggest that whatever you accomplish is perfect.

    Judging performance inflamed my PTSD, made me feel unworthy and brought more suffering to me anyway.
    The ego is the culprit who wants to compare, label, then file away neatly all of life.

    Wonder if each day is a miracle not good or bad but a gift to be lived and not cognitively dissected.
    I found judgment to be so detrimental to my healing and letting go.

    Good healing

    • Thanks for the feedback, and thanks for reading! I agree that judgment perpetuates the cycle. That’s why I’ve categorized it, to allow myself a bad day (including a nap for me and movie for my child). I think my therapist wants me to have something predictable to fall back on. Unfortunately, my status quo on bad days is to shut down completely, which is not acceptable when I have a career, a husband, and two young kids- one of whom I homeschool. The bad days is allowing a break and still giving me a goal, because I still have to feed my children and take care of them, despite my diagnosis. I will be adding to the schedule my list of coping skills, including calling family and friends to help me, especially on bad days.

  2. I love the idea of recognizing that you have good days,medium days, and bad days. Thats honest and realistic, yet it still has some as semblance of a routine. I will be looking forward to the coping skills you come up with or should I say what works best in your life. Is this the Christian therapist that you mentioned before?

  3. Routine with flexibility for the type of day it is, great idea. Following a schedule often kicks in my perfectionist tendencies, so I have to remind myself not to let a “medium” day derail into “bad” just because I didn’t follow my schedule to a “T”. Also, when I find myself making a new schedule for me or my family, which I tend to do, I have to realize (for me) that sometimes this “new schedule” is an idealization of the future, and a coping mechanism for me to deal with today, the present, which is likely distressing in someway.

    • Yes yes, I noticed I like to change up the schedule on paper when I’m anxious too! I have allowed a part of my morning specifically for this, so I can acknowledge that scheduling is a comforting coping skill for me.

  4. Thank you for being open taking action, many that I approach with PTSD react as if triggered and attack for me saying you can heal.

    I have found happiness is not a goal or something we can attain. For me happiness is carried with us, underlies everyday life, exists below the surface and exists even when times are stressful.

    Happiness has a hard time being present when we have anger, hate, doubt, unworthiness or any negative feeling we say outloud or entertain the thought.

    If I judge anything I do, that judgment is sort of locked to us like an anchor, we will defend that judgment and it has become part of us.

    For me I had all these unworthy beliefs, I was flawed because my father criticized and beat me incessantly for nothing. Mi do not have or let me say I do not entertain or say anything negative and resist judging not only me but others as much as possible.

    The result life freed up and each day was a day, they were not anything, good bad hard easy they were a miracle and I was granted the breath to live it fully not cognitive dissect it or judge it.

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